That formula was written on a sticky note and affectionately placed on my computer screen by my colleagues in my former role as a Hiring Manager. It was no secret that I fell short when it came to details and rule-following. My company used DISC assessments (love that tool) internally and helped clients do the same. It was obvious that I, as a D/I, found it a real stretch to follow the systems that were put in place and necessary for others to do their jobs properly. A business needs systems to run smoothly and I know this, but I really struggled with upholding my end of the deal.
I don’t believe I’m entitled. I don’t believe that I have the right to NOT do things the way they are supposed to be done. I try to follow the formulas provided to ensure a streamlined work flow but I don’t always succeed. My files are a mess, the way I organize isn’t like everyone else’s way, and I often make it difficult for others to fulfill their responsibilities without coming back to me with things I’ve missed. Thankfully, in that company, I worked with dedicated, professional, authentic women and we all supported each other’s strengths while acknowledging and helping to fill in where we were weak. Every organization should be so evolved!
I’ve tried my entire life to follow the formulas. I was constantly trying to figure out what was wrong with me and why it was so challenging to stay on a straight line. Then I finally realized that there’s nothing wrong with me and I accepted that, for me, Systems + Processes = Hell.
Systems + Processes = Hell!
There are employees everywhere who, unlike me, may have been written up, or terminated or left to their own devices to try to keep their heads above water. If that sounds like you, it doesn’t mean you’re not worthy. It may mean you’re in the wrong job, maybe you’re not in a position that draws on your strengths and minimizes your weaknesses. It may mean you have to reevaluate the types of jobs you’ve been searching for because this is a consistent theme in your work history. Finding Career Wellness can sometimes be as easy as starting with these things:
1. Deem yourself worthy (even though you have weaknesses).
2. Acknowledge where you fall short.
3. Laugh at yourself – find humor in your flaws (and in others’).
4. Support others who are weak where you are strong.
5. Do your best; and ask for help where you need it.
6. Seek out positions and companies that value and utilize your strengths.
The sticky note with the formula is now proudly framed and displayed in my office. It reminds me that I’m not perfect. It reminds my clients that they don’t have to be perfect either.
If you do well working with formulas, why not write your own unique formula for Career Wellness? Once you have your formula, you are better armed to make career decisions that align with your core strengths and values. Mine would be:
Creativity + Freedom + Relationships + Helping = JOY!
Commit to creating your own formula for 2014, either in your current role or as you seek a new position, and ask yourself if your choices fall into the formula. Even I can see that this system, which is really just taking what your gut already knows and putting it on paper in front of you, is a necessary first step for gaining a new perspective on your life at work.